Randoms

So just a little random post for today, I started meds this past Saturday and so far so good. no headaches or mood swings. I hope to keep up this good luck I seem to be having. Only time shall tell, I just hope the Lupron is doing its job and making sure all things are quiet and stay that way.
 

Meds!!

The only people I know that get excited to receive a box full of medication and needles are surrogates. I got my box o fun today and I am so excited to get things started. I start Lupron on Saturday! Lupron suppress your ovaries so you don't ovulate, it is injected into your stomach with a tiny needle. I have had 2 previous cycles where it was my only needle and this cycle will be the same, which makes me a happy camper. I know a bunch of surrogates that would much rather do PIO, which is a form of progesterone. It is a much larger needle that is injected into the upper right part of your butt. BUT it usually leaves you with a knotted, lumpy sore butt and I would much rather use the suppositories. So here is to officially getting the ball rolling! Only 42 more days till transfer....so far yet so close! .

 

Final Journey Begins!!

Well the time has come to share where I am in my final journey...
 I am matched to a wonderful gay couple M&M, yes I know they have the same initials as my guys ( I will forever call them my guys, well because they are) which in my opinion I take as a good sign! They are funny, down to earth and just all around great people. I got to meet them at my screening appointment which was great! They live far from me as well which stinks but it is what it is.

So we matched back in January and met in March for the first time. I was so incredibly nervous about out meeting and also the meeting with the RE. Given my history after the premature birth of my surrotwins I was not as optimistic as I was with my other journeys. Turned out I had nothing to worry about, after a long talk with the RE and what my expectations are as well as the guys we were all on the same page! He did do an exam to look in my uterus to see if I had any polyps or cysts and nope nothing at all. He was amazed that he could not see any scar tissue at all considering I have had 2 c-sections  . He also tried to break down the statistics that out of all 7 babies I have delivered that they are all girls. This RE was a very laid back one, and I like that about him, but the most important thing is for him to get me pregnant!

Everything is all set and we are ready to go. Contracts are signed, escrow is set up, testing is done and now we are officially cycling!!!! I start Lupron on the 20th and I will be a nervous wreck until May 29th and we have the fertilization report and we know that there will be embryos to transfer, then I will be a HUGE ball of anxiety and nerves till transfer day and then...OK let me stop getting ahead of myself. First things first start Lupron and hopefully, God willing my uterus cooperates and grows a nice fluffy lining.

 

Assumptions....

SO why do people assume? We all do it, we try not to but it is just something that happens. It is what happens AFTER is what is important, if you take that assumption and run with it so to say. Being on the other end of an assumption really sucks, not only can it be hurtful but damaging as well. I guess I should explain. So my last post ended off with trying to be approved for another final journey, to help a women that I thought was amazing. I don't think she is any less amazing, nor do I think anything different of her. Well it turned out that her RE was unwilling to move forward with me as her surro and I knew this was a very possible situation and was prepared for it. IT no less sucked after hearing this news in July, it sucked more for her though. All I could think about was her and how she felt, and what she was going to do next. If I could help her find another surro that she would be comfortable with that could help her. She and I had a good relationship that was growing into a friendship, she is a very busy lady but always made time to chit chat or answer questions. So after our answer from the RE I wanted to give her some time to clear her mind and feelings, so I did not really contact her, I would comment on her FB page or like a picture so she knew I was still there.

 At the time in July there were things going on in my life that were stressful and hectic and the week of the July theater shootings I decided to deactivate my FB account, why? So I could be removed from everything that was a distraction to my life, so I could put all effort and energy into my life and things that were going on. Well the shooting happened and she (my possible IM) knew I lived in the vicinity of what happened and apparently she tried to contact me via FB, but I was gone. Come to find out months later after she had not responded to several messages, or posted on my wall ( after I reactivated at the end of August) I looked at her blog and what did I see? A post about me and how I cut her out of my life and that all she was to me were possible $$ signs....SERIOUSLY?? She did not try to contact me via text message, and YES she had my number, or email and again YES she has that too. She just spewed vial words of disgust about me on her blog.

 Then Aurora happens and I immediately look to see if she is OK (on FB – she lives in that vicinity) and she is gone. Poof. She blocked me. She erased me from her life. My husband was very relieved that we didn’t proceed further with someone who clearly didn’t see us as anything more than dollar signs…I took it a bit harder.. I felt like I’d been punched in the gut. The idea of someone carrying a child for me wasn’t easy. I had pangs and yearnings and questions but I made peace with it because of her. I also felt a connection to her and knew she would care for my children (if they do turn into children but with a normal CGH embryo made a few years ago, you have a good chance in the right womb). The person that I almost let carry my children blocked me on facebook. Just.Like.THAT. If that isn’t a kick in the pants, I don’t know what is. All I can say is I hope she isn’t following me. Fool me once and I get the picture. I’ve now learned that life is not only about choices but also how you react to the choices of others. I just keep on thinking…what if she had my children living inside of her and blocked me. What if, what if, what if. Maybe I have a guardian angel. I don’t know.

I am in awe of this post, because I needed time away from FB she ASSumes that I am just a careless, money grubbing piece of dirt. So I tried messaging her, again, and no response so I CALLED her on both numbers I had, emailed her and do you think I got a response? No, and crazy still we are still FB friends, you would think if I blocked her or unfriended her we would not still be FB friends but we are, you know why?? Because I NEVER did what she ASSumed I did. I cannot believe that she would go as far as not to return my calls, text message, email or FB message.

To think I did use ALL methods of communication at my disposal to contact her to let her know what really happened, something SHE should have done if she really cared if I was alright............. But maybe that is just me and the way I think, I don't know. I needed to get that out of my system, vent it into cyber space. I don't yet know how I should react, unfriend her? really truly block her? I still care about her and I know will still think about and wonder if her dream of becoming a mom of 2 (or 3) actually happens. I know I won't unfriend her, I didn't I am still in some strange way on her side. She truly is an amazing women and I still want nothing but the best for her and her family so I will accept sitting on the sidelines like some thrown away piece of trash. I know who I am, I know my value, I know my loyalty. I will act like me no matter what is thrown in my face. No matter what I will still cheer her on. I wrote this post back in October of 2012 and am just now posting it... I wasn't sure if I ever wanted to but I think now is as good a time as any.